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What is Boring Self Care?
Boring self care is doing the things for yourself that you dislike or dread doing for yourself. Things like running errands, shopping, cooking, cleaning, paying bills, and going to the doctor.
I was recently talking with a friend. She said to me that self care is hard. She is absolutely right. I have also found in my own life that self care is hard.
We are brought up seeing either the mother who sacrifices most self care to be a care taker for her children or the mother who chooses herself over all things including her children. Mine was the sacrificial mother. In turn I also became the sacrificial mother.
Parents are supposed to have a sacrificial type of love for their children. We give up many things for them, but it should never be to the point to where we cannot care for them or ourselves.
Children very much learn from our example. All of my grown children have learned to feel guilty for taking care of themselves not because I shamed them, but because they watched me do it to myself.
Another reason we neglect ourselves is because we just don’t want to or like doing what needs to be done. You know what I mean, those days, you don’t want to put pants on because you don’t want to go to the store to buy milk for your cereal because you don’t want to cook. Who has those days? I know I do.
I’m so glad my UPS deliver driver doesn’t judge me when he arrives at 5:30 pm and I’m still in my pajama pants.
The third reason we neglect our self care is because we think or feel that we are unworthy of it. I know this sounds extreme, but it is more common than we think especially where depression, mental illness, personal injury, or personality disorders have had their way with our thinking. I hope you know that you are worthy of being cared for and loved.
This is going to be a ten installment series of how to handle your boring self care. I hope to offer you suggestions that are easy to apply to how you go about getting these things accomplished for yourself.
I believe that the more you push yourself to perform these tasks for yourself, the less anxiety you’ll have at the thought of doing them. I hope that we can change your truth just bit to make your next chapter to be more fulfilling.
Until next time,
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