Have you ever received a piece of advice that just rocked your brain? I have. At one time I was so angry at my situation and the person who caused it. I thought my anger would consume me. I was negative and would express myself to whoever would listen to me until no one wanted to listen.
I’m sure I lost some friends and definitely was held at a distance by my family. My anger was starting to ruin my life. I needed to find a way to express this anger without setting my world on fire and watching the flames devour everything I loved.
My anger continued to build and with no outlet I shoved it down because I was unable to express it anymore. It turned into depression. I have heard it now for a while that unresolved or unreleased anger turns into depression, boy were they right! So here I was, angry, depressed, and getting bitter by the day.
So then came the advice I needed to hear:
“It’s OK to get angry about what people have done to you, but use it to propel yourself forward to change your situation.” – David Pate
This is what I took from that advice:
1. I was ALLOWED be angry (I needed to hear this)
2. This isn’t the end.
3. I can change the outcome of this situation.
4. My anger can have a positive effect.
Soon after I listened to a Jim Rohn lecture on YouTube. Link Here This is where the next bit came in that I needed, I already had the “what”, but this was the “how.” Mr. Rohn said “disgust is a negative emotion that can have a positive effect. Disgust is when you say ENOUGH.”
Near the end of the lecture he talks about a woman who became the vice president of a large company. She didn’t have any formal education past high school. When she was a young mother she had asked her husband for $10. He asked her “what for?* She decided that day, that she would never ask him again. Every time I hear this story the water works start, why? Because I could totally relate to this woman and the situation she started with. She said “Enough!” and she changed her life.
That is when I decided that I have had enough and decided to use my anger to push me. Guess what I did then… I started this blog and researched how to become a life coach. I’m currently taking life coach and marketing courses.
What is the best advice you ever received? How did you put it into action?