Build the New!

There are times in life when we need to change things. Something isn’t working for us anymore, or we are finally tired of doing the same things and getting the same results. Perhaps you were even thrust into a situation that left you in a place where you have had to rebuild your life. Many times in my own life I have found myself so frustrated with the way things were, I would vow to change my entire life. I would spend a lot of time planning my newly created life only to be overwhelmed with too much too fast and reverting back to my familiar rut. Some people can wake up one morning and say “Today, I will do something different with my life,” and they do it. I’m not one of those people and I’m guessing that neither are you.

I have noticed that unless I agreed and helped plan it, I absolutely dislike change. Especially extreme change or change that is thrust upon me by painful circumstances beyond my control. It takes me a minute or a year to adjust. I typically have my own personal pity party and then I pull myself up and for the most part together. We need to feel all those emotions even if we just want to ignore them or stuff them down buried under work, busyness, or copious amounts of alcohol. We have to deal with what the emotions are trying to tell us eventually, it’s better to process them sooner rather than later when we self destruct. I do mean deal, work through, and process the emotions, not unpack and live there.

Something we have to remember is that nothing in life is permanent, absolutely nothing. Maybe accepting this one thing will give you a new found freedom, or maybe it will catapult you into a new level of anxiety. Breathe! It will be okay. Many times we fear change because we think it will be painful. Let’s explore this a minute…nothing in life is permanent. That means your emotions, your circumstances, your problems, your beliefs, your values, your knowledge, and definitely your body changes over time (unless you’re Cindy Crawford). Remember when you were five years old and you HATED broccoli? Now you eat broccoli on a regular basis and enjoy it. That is what I mean, everything changes.

Since everything changes, why not be the catalyst for change to make yourself happy? Why not get the ball rolling? Really that’s all there is to it. I know, it’s not THAT easy. But it can be that easy after it’s done being difficult. Many things are difficult at first. Change just one thing you can do everyday. Just one thing! Maybe you want to start meditating. Maybe you want to start walking. Maybe you want to devote more time to your relationship with God. Maybe you want to eat healthier. Maybe you want to start your own business. You can do it! Take a small amount of time (5-10-20-60 minutes)to work on the thing you want to add to your life daily. Set an alarm on your phone to remind yourself if you need to. Some of you are thinking, “Heck, I’m doing well to get dressed everyday.” So do that! Make it a goal to get dressed everyday or shower everyday, after 2 weeks, add to it, do your hair everyday, soon you will be adding more to it and feeling more and more accomplished.

There are so many things you can do that will change your life for the better. The best part is that no matter what happens beyond your control, you may waver at times but you will have a set plan of action to come back to. You will find that in time that these things will become your routine. Routine, although some people have the belief that they are confining they really are freeing. They are solid things in your life that give the feeling of stability and well being.

Have you thought of what you want to do to change your life? Just one thing, what will it be?

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